I hope some one can advise!
I care for my incapacitated Mum, and as me & my sister disagreed about her future and finances, a horrible deputy was appointed.
I am passed from pillar to post by his team, and the case is always moving from person to person. They now charge for a solicitor in his team to check shopping receipts! I get nothing for the many hours I put in caring/coordinating care, or the many miles I drive. They didn't repair drains in a timely manner, (more than one month after they were informed), leaving effluent flowing down the street, and the household at risk of infection.
Despite prompting at first meeting in June 19, the deputy didn't apply for attendance allowance, wasting mum's money on council tax if £2300 a year.
For the second time, he recently pressurised me to permit him to apply for a statutory will, and the email smacked of emotional blackmail:
"There is one matter that I would like to return to and which I am sorry that I forgot to raise with you yesterday. You will remember that I suggested that we should consider making an application to the Court to make an amendment to your mother’s will given the tensions and fractured relationship that you have with your sister. A Statutory Will would have regard to that and a simple change could be made to it to ensure an independent Executor and Trustee is appointed rather than leaving everything to be dealt with by you and your sister as the appointed administrators. It is clear to me that it is unlikely that there will be a satisfactory resolution of the relationship between you and your sister and therefore the appointment of an independent Executor for your mother’s will would prevent a repeat of the difficulties that have arisen in the recent history.
You did say when I raised this with you previously that you would take some advice and consider it. Can you let me know your views on this.
Can you come back to me briefly on this latter point".
This to me is emotional blackmail and I want no further contact with these solicitors , who I consider to be money fleecing charlatans.
What should I do, whom should I complain to?
I care for my incapacitated Mum, and as me & my sister disagreed about her future and finances, a horrible deputy was appointed.
I am passed from pillar to post by his team, and the case is always moving from person to person. They now charge for a solicitor in his team to check shopping receipts! I get nothing for the many hours I put in caring/coordinating care, or the many miles I drive. They didn't repair drains in a timely manner, (more than one month after they were informed), leaving effluent flowing down the street, and the household at risk of infection.
Despite prompting at first meeting in June 19, the deputy didn't apply for attendance allowance, wasting mum's money on council tax if £2300 a year.
For the second time, he recently pressurised me to permit him to apply for a statutory will, and the email smacked of emotional blackmail:
"There is one matter that I would like to return to and which I am sorry that I forgot to raise with you yesterday. You will remember that I suggested that we should consider making an application to the Court to make an amendment to your mother’s will given the tensions and fractured relationship that you have with your sister. A Statutory Will would have regard to that and a simple change could be made to it to ensure an independent Executor and Trustee is appointed rather than leaving everything to be dealt with by you and your sister as the appointed administrators. It is clear to me that it is unlikely that there will be a satisfactory resolution of the relationship between you and your sister and therefore the appointment of an independent Executor for your mother’s will would prevent a repeat of the difficulties that have arisen in the recent history.
You did say when I raised this with you previously that you would take some advice and consider it. Can you let me know your views on this.
Can you come back to me briefly on this latter point".
This to me is emotional blackmail and I want no further contact with these solicitors , who I consider to be money fleecing charlatans.
What should I do, whom should I complain to?