I went round to see my mum last night after her fall. I had some shopping to bring round & we decided to order a takeaway to eat with her as we have not had the opportunity to do so for a while & it is something she enjoys.
She was extremely agitated. As I have said before,she is a hoarder & there were piles of papers, a lot from years back on her table. I started to go through them saying that we needed to clear the table for food but she was going nuts at me doing so, in the end, we just put everything into a plastic bag for her to sort out stuff - only she doesn’t.
I also wanted to get rid of papers that she had written on with my name & wrong number on it & there were loads of them! In the end, I wrote my contact name & number & sellotaped it to the door. That didn’t go down very well, she threatened to hit me & that she would take it off the door.
I phoned up the doctors as I wanted to check out if they had done a home visit to check her out after her fall. They had done so & found no red flags about her falling but this is now her 3rd fall in a year. I’m not sure if the vascular part of her dementia is making her have mini strokes & causing her to fall over.
I also wanted the doctor to check her out for depression as I can see she has all the symptoms & to be honest I think she needs some anti psychotic drugs to calm down her aggression. She has also hallucinated in the past few months. She was greatly upset as she said a strange man had been in her lounge at night & she was scared so she started putting her chain on the door at night which is no good as then the carers can’t get in.
When I spoke to her this morning, she had no recollection at all that we had visited her yesterday evening. She started demanding that we visit her today & I said sorry we are working now & cannot visit.
I do feel sorry about her feeling lonely & we do try & give her solutions but she will not take us up on them & I know if we try & force it on her that she will baulk even more. The last few days have put me on a real downer as she is so difficult to deal with. I have to chase every single person/organisation up that deals with her & it is a/ very time consuming & b/ depressing.
She was extremely agitated. As I have said before,she is a hoarder & there were piles of papers, a lot from years back on her table. I started to go through them saying that we needed to clear the table for food but she was going nuts at me doing so, in the end, we just put everything into a plastic bag for her to sort out stuff - only she doesn’t.
I also wanted to get rid of papers that she had written on with my name & wrong number on it & there were loads of them! In the end, I wrote my contact name & number & sellotaped it to the door. That didn’t go down very well, she threatened to hit me & that she would take it off the door.
I phoned up the doctors as I wanted to check out if they had done a home visit to check her out after her fall. They had done so & found no red flags about her falling but this is now her 3rd fall in a year. I’m not sure if the vascular part of her dementia is making her have mini strokes & causing her to fall over.
I also wanted the doctor to check her out for depression as I can see she has all the symptoms & to be honest I think she needs some anti psychotic drugs to calm down her aggression. She has also hallucinated in the past few months. She was greatly upset as she said a strange man had been in her lounge at night & she was scared so she started putting her chain on the door at night which is no good as then the carers can’t get in.
When I spoke to her this morning, she had no recollection at all that we had visited her yesterday evening. She started demanding that we visit her today & I said sorry we are working now & cannot visit.
I do feel sorry about her feeling lonely & we do try & give her solutions but she will not take us up on them & I know if we try & force it on her that she will baulk even more. The last few days have put me on a real downer as she is so difficult to deal with. I have to chase every single person/organisation up that deals with her & it is a/ very time consuming & b/ depressing.