My mum is 76 and has recently been diagnosed with dementia. I have had experience with caring for people with this disease but it is very different when it is your mum! She has been having memory problems for 2 years, lives at home with my dad, but lately she isn't recognising him as her husband. She thinks he went missing 3 weeks ago and someone else is there instead. However when i go round and say that this is my dad she is ok for a short time and then it starts all over again. She is very fit and when she gets upset by this other man she goes on a long wander and we don't always know where she is. Today she came to me 3 times I visited her 3 times, she walked to a friends house, then my sons and then went and fetched fish and chips and went home! She was upset most of the time. I phoned her at 8.30pm. She had enjoyed her fish and chips and dad was home and she was ok. Tommorrow it will all start again! My dad doesn't have patience with her and gets cross. He can't cope with her no knowing him. They have always had a stormy marriage. The phsyco- geriatrist is arranging am appointment for the memory clinic which will be in 3 months time. The GP has prescribed Promazine to calm her but it is not having much effect and i don't want her to be a zombie. My question is should we bring her back to our reality and keep telling her that this is her husband or do we enter her reality and go along with her???? It is getting quite distressing.