Hi I am new here and looking for anyone that can help me understand is it usual for your partner to shut you out and not beable to talk to you how the dementia is making them feel? Feeling very alone
Hi Meadow
My wife won't discuss it either, never has and can get quite aggressive if anyone does (quite out of her nature normally). I don't know if it's that she can't/won't talk about it or that she has simply never accepted it in her mind. Normal is I have to tell her to get undressed, give her new clothes and make sure she puts them on the right way round, yet to her this is "normal" now. I hate to think what she would think if the "old" her could see the "new" her.
Questioning invites confrontation and that's never a good thing so I just let her live in her own world of "normal".
I think it's pretty widely recognised that women like to talk things out where men bottle things up (a bit stereotypical I know), so maybe it's easier for me not to feel "shut out" like you do and easier for your partner not to want to discuss it
as (I'm guessing) we're both men.
If the genders or orientations are different then this won't apply.
K