I feel lots of things guilt, worry , anxiety, anger, loss and I’m just managing to keep going with my own family life (husband ,2 kids, job) .
On brief : I’ve been trying to get a diagnosis for my mum for over two years . My dad wouldn’t respond, my mum doesn’t understand , my dad says things like we don’t need help , we don’t want to be bothered with hospital appoints , it’s just old age (she’s 69)!.
Anyway I have turned up and staged a sort of an intervention saying this is ridiculous she needs help , I’ve spoke to my sister and we’ve gone together . And although I share how I feel nothing happened , I was shut down , told ‘I’ve got it under control , we’re fine ‘ by my dad.
Anyway lock down happened and he really struggled on his own and called me to say he ‘didn’t want to be her cared ’ . This was good in some ways as we finally made the call to the doctors and started some assessments. We have got further with doctors had tests , ct scan , she’s got a thyroid issue , and memory clinic test . So that’s good as we have made progress, but what now ???
Dad finally admitted she can’t be left on her own - she wanders off , he leaves the back door open and the neighbours ring me up. My sister has started to work from home one day a week to give him time off and we try to cover him playing golf at the weekends but I feel very uncomfortable at the moment with Covid as I’m a high school teacher and near lots of children.
He has been offered 5-6 hours care a week but he sort of said he didn’t want to do that as my sister could come round . I want proper care for my mum and I want to help my dad be able to cope as it must be so hard for him but I feel a bit stuck with what to do next .
It’s so complicated and effects a lot of emotions .
Hope someone can give some advice .
Thank you
On brief : I’ve been trying to get a diagnosis for my mum for over two years . My dad wouldn’t respond, my mum doesn’t understand , my dad says things like we don’t need help , we don’t want to be bothered with hospital appoints , it’s just old age (she’s 69)!.
Anyway I have turned up and staged a sort of an intervention saying this is ridiculous she needs help , I’ve spoke to my sister and we’ve gone together . And although I share how I feel nothing happened , I was shut down , told ‘I’ve got it under control , we’re fine ‘ by my dad.
Anyway lock down happened and he really struggled on his own and called me to say he ‘didn’t want to be her cared ’ . This was good in some ways as we finally made the call to the doctors and started some assessments. We have got further with doctors had tests , ct scan , she’s got a thyroid issue , and memory clinic test . So that’s good as we have made progress, but what now ???
Dad finally admitted she can’t be left on her own - she wanders off , he leaves the back door open and the neighbours ring me up. My sister has started to work from home one day a week to give him time off and we try to cover him playing golf at the weekends but I feel very uncomfortable at the moment with Covid as I’m a high school teacher and near lots of children.
He has been offered 5-6 hours care a week but he sort of said he didn’t want to do that as my sister could come round . I want proper care for my mum and I want to help my dad be able to cope as it must be so hard for him but I feel a bit stuck with what to do next .
It’s so complicated and effects a lot of emotions .
Hope someone can give some advice .
Thank you