It could get better
Kerry, I wanted to respond. A little over a year ago my mother went into a care home after being sectioned (2 weeks in hospital) after a crisis.
I was very very stressed by the sectioning and the move to the care home but also, like you, thought that things would get better.
A year on, things HAVE got better, a lot better, and I know now this was absolutely the right thing to do (well, I knew it all along, I just understand it better now).
But before the stress got better, it was just as bad, but in a different way.
True, I no longer had to worry about my mother burning down the house or getting in her car and killing someone or not eating or making herself ill by taking the wrong medications or any of the other things I'd worried about for such a long time. She was safe, looked after, fed, warm, got her proper medicines, and had company 24/7 if she wanted it.
We would get phone calls, lots and lots of phone calls, and they were all agitated/upset/confused/all of the above phone calls. Why am I here, why have you done this to me you ungrateful (unprintable) no daughter of mine, I'm at work so please come and get me, I can't find my car, I want to go home, I can't work the phone (then HOW ARE YOU CALLING ME?), I can't work the telly, I hate you, I love you, I want to go home, there's nothing wrong with me, I haven't seen a doctor, they ignore me, I haven't eaten for days, I haven't seen a doctor, I saw a doctor but didn't agree with him, they are trying to poison me, it just goes on and on.
Often we would get a string of calls in a row. In addition to Alzheimer's, my mother has no short term memory to speak of, so she couldn't remember that she had just called us.
We got voicemail instead of an answerphone/answering machine, so I wouldn't have to hear her voice when she left messages. We got caller ID so we would know it was her calling. For a while, I would cry every time the phone rang. I learned to not answer the calls, but it was hard.
Gradually they got better and have almost stopped completely. I think it's been at least a few months since the last unpleasant voice mail, or the last phone call at all, in fact.
So I am hoping that like my mother, your mum will continue to settle and you won't have to be distressed by this sort of thing.
Best wishes to you.