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Browknee

Registered User
Jun 29, 2015
3
Hi Everyone
I have joined you all for some help and advice!
We have noticed a decline in my father in laws partner in the last year or so! I'm unsure of what to do for the best as she is refusing to seek any help and gets very upset if anyone talks about it! She is becoming increasingly stressed by everyday life & the strain on my father in law is starting to tell! She had an appointment with a specialist but 2 days before the appointment she had a meltdown and refused to go convinced that she will be sectioned or locked up etc! So my point is how can you help someone who doesn't want to be helped we are starting to get desperate!
 

Sue J

Registered User
Dec 9, 2009
8,035
Hi Browknee

Welcome to TP, sorry you need to be here though. Sorry, no advice, but others will I'm sure.

Best wishes
Sue
 

Lindy50

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Dec 11, 2013
5,239
Cotswolds
Hello Browknee and welcome to TP :)

This is a very difficult situation - though understandable on your FIL's partner's part. If she had a specialist appointment, was she referred by her GP? If so, I suggest maybe you ( and FIL, preferably) make an appointment to see him / her. They won't be able to tell you much, because of patient confidentiality, but you could expect them to listen to your worries and take appropriate action. For example, they could call said partner in for a 'routine check up' and examine her then.

It would also be a good idea to keep a diary of the problems you, FIL and partner encounter, so that you can give as full a picture as possible when you do get to see someone.

Good luck, this is a very hard situation to cope with.

All the best

Lindy xx
 

Browknee

Registered User
Jun 29, 2015
3
Hello Browknee and welcome to TP :)

This is a very difficult situation - though understandable on your FIL's partner's part. If she had a specialist appointment, was she referred by her GP? If so, I suggest maybe you ( and FIL, preferably) make an appointment to see him / her. They won't be able to tell you much, because of patient confidentiality, but you could expect them to listen to your worries and take appropriate action. For example, they could call said partner in for a 'routine check up' and examine her then.

It would also be a good idea to keep a diary of the problems you, FIL and partner encounter, so that you can give as full a picture as possible when you do get to see someone.

Good luck, this is a very hard situation to cope with.
All the best

Lindy xx
Thanks Lindy
My FIL's partner has 4 kids and one is a GP she managed to get a specialist appointment directly but to be honest that's as much as she has done and is pretty useless really! As for the routine check great idea but she is so mistrusting of everything that she won't go & genuinely thinks they are all out to get her! As much as I'm concerned about her suffering its my FIL's sanity I'm worried about, he's an old fashioned bottle it up type of chap that does the stiff upper lip approach & asking for help doesn't come naturally!