I sympathise but isn't it really a case of facing reality if he plays with the tv the bottom line is its dangerous. So he doesn't want to go into a home, neither did my mum but it was not the horrible workhouse vision she had but a nice warm friendly place she now loves. Unpopular as this may be look at a respite package for him, and see if he will enjoy a break and go from there. My belief is that a lot of elderly people are lonely because we imprison them in there flats houses etc because they say that is where they want to be despite seeing no one for days on end except the Tesco delivery van or meals on wheels and that is another thing does he fiddle with the cooker? I'd do what you know he may need to have done he can't live with you and soon won't be ab;e to live alone. But do you claim attendance allowance for him because this could and should pay for him to get help in his day to day living. If you don't, you should it will help in paying for help for him at the time he needs it or provide somebody nearby to pop over and check on him. He might just be lonely and playing with the tv for attention a befriending service might help as well. Good luck and hope he doesn't get a porn channel by mistake instead of the BBC as well as a german one.