my mum is receiving carers am and pm for 30 mins and one day care at moment but dad is struggling with her incontinence and is considering care homes as he is finding mum very difficult to look after as he is 84 and she is not able to do anything apart from feed herself.would he have to fund all her care as she has savings or is there a point when he could get help .its such a difficult decision but don't think he can cope much longer