My mum has Lewy body dementia and has deteriorated over last few months. She’s still living alone at home but someone goes in every day to do her medication and prepare her tea. I live 1.5 away but go 3/4 times a week inc staying over one night. I also ring about 4 times a day. She can still look after herself but I do all the shopping, finances, washing etc and manage the house. She used to love reading the paper and doing crosswords but can’t concentrate to do this anymore. Finds it hard to concentrate on TV and often gets mixed up with TV remote and phone. Regularly leaves phone off the hook so I have to r8mg a neighbour to go and put it back. Has lots of hallucinations of people in the house who she talks to. Increasing difficulty with word finding so often I can’t work out what she’s trying to say. Sometimes forgets to eat which is why I’ve arranged for carers to come when I’m not there which she’s v grumpy about. The situation has taken over my life. Even when I’m not there I’m thinking about it. She hates being on her own and constantly tells me. Hates it when I leave. Says she’ll never go into a care home and I worry that the transition will just make her dementia worse. She’d prefer to come and live with us but I just can’t bear the thought of that which makes me feel guilty. She stayed for 8 weeks during lockdown and drove us all mad. Hates being alone even when there’s other people in the house. Follows me around. Won’t go to bed until you go. Won’t sit in another room to watch TV but complains about the programmes we watch. Just wants me to talk to her all the time which I find exhausting coupled with all the usual repetition and losing things. I also have other caring responsibilities to 2 teenagers who lost their mum recently. I’ve tried to support my mum for 10 years since my dad died -taking her away and out for the day but she always wants more and 8m getting to the end of my tether as is my husband. Sorry for the long ramble but how do people decide when someone needs to go into care and also withstand the pressure to bring them into your home without feeling awful. I love my mum but find her very wearing. Thanks