I’m an only child of an 81 year old Dad with dementia. It’s definitely getting worse. He lives alone in the house he’s lived in for 50+ years with a lot of care but he tells
me every day he’s unhappy and wants to live with me. I live five hours away.
I have a full-time job, a teenager, and a house that is not laid out for him to live in. And, honestly, I don’t want him to live with me. He was here for a month this winter and it was really depressing. Even though he went to a day program five days a week, it felt like constant management. And he was even more confused than usual. He requires almost constant care. I feel incredibly guilty about saying he can’t live with me.
I found a really nice assisted living place 15 minutes away and I want him to live there. They interviewed him and said he would be a good fit for now. I would see him almost every day. But he doesnt want to live there, he only wants to live with me. Sometimes when I suggest the place, he agrees, but then quickly pivots the conversation to him moving in with me again. I know there’s no reasoning, but I also can’t force him.
What do I do? is there a technique that might work to help him see it’s the best option for all of us?
me every day he’s unhappy and wants to live with me. I live five hours away.
I have a full-time job, a teenager, and a house that is not laid out for him to live in. And, honestly, I don’t want him to live with me. He was here for a month this winter and it was really depressing. Even though he went to a day program five days a week, it felt like constant management. And he was even more confused than usual. He requires almost constant care. I feel incredibly guilty about saying he can’t live with me.
I found a really nice assisted living place 15 minutes away and I want him to live there. They interviewed him and said he would be a good fit for now. I would see him almost every day. But he doesnt want to live there, he only wants to live with me. Sometimes when I suggest the place, he agrees, but then quickly pivots the conversation to him moving in with me again. I know there’s no reasoning, but I also can’t force him.
What do I do? is there a technique that might work to help him see it’s the best option for all of us?