HELP: Any ideas on how to keep carpet dry.

[dancer12]

Hi again @dancer12

Remembering how my dad was I noticed that my dad tended to pee in two places more than anywhere else - at the side of the bed and in front of the sofa - so I assume he was losing control when he stood.

I wonder if, as a temporary measure, you could put down small rubber backed rugs which can be washed in the machine. That would contain some of the urine.

It’s such a difficult situation to deal with. My dad didn’t believe he was causing the wet patches all over his home so he didn’t see the need for pull-ups and he got annoyed with me if I dared to suggest he might have a problem with continence...I never did see that man with the watering can that dad said was causing all the problems!

Hi Bunpoots:

He pees wherever & whenever he feels like and then he gets angry at me and says not me it was you (meaning me). I've already ordered rugs. Thanks Much. I think I'll start writing a book about this. I think I'll call it CAN YOU FIND MY PEE BEFORE YOU FIND ME. If I don't laugh I'll cry.

 

[Bunpoots]

Hi Bunpoots:

He pees wherever & whenever he feels like and then he gets angry at me and says not me it was you (meaning me). I've already ordered rugs. Thanks Much. I think I'll start writing a book about this. I think I'll call it CAN YOU FIND MY PEE BEFORE YOU FIND ME. If I don't laugh I'll cry.

I know just how you feel....good luck with the book

 

[Roseleigh]

Dancer,
You are amazing that you can find anything to laugh at in this! Your HBs peeing horror makes my problems seem trivial!
I think I would be a lot more brutal than you re the incontinence pants and refuse to give him clothes till he puts them on! I am such a witch!
Have you tried the washable eco friendly kind? He may not even recognise these as 'nappies' since theyre fabric?

 

[dancer12]

Dancer,
You are amazing that you can find anything to laugh at in this! Your HBs peeing horror makes my problems seem trivial!
I think I would be a lot more brutal than you re the incontinence pants and refuse to give him clothes till he puts them on! I am such a witch!
Have you tried the washable eco friendly kind? He may not even recognise these as 'nappies' since theyre fabric?

Hi Roseleigh:

It sounds like you have a handful; yourself. It wasn't this bad when our kids were young, they had a few accidents but nothing like this. Tonight he decided he would water the stairs, so he got out of bed and because I was in the bathroom he started going downstairs, on the main floor I guess he forgot where he was going, took out his pee thing and decided to pee on the stairs. My son witnessed the whole thing. My husband denied doing it pointing the finger a me and our son. I think the wires are crossed in his brain but this doesn't make it any easier on me or my son. I can't watch him every single minute of the day, what he needs is a man servant chasing him around all day, yes sir no sir three bags full sir. I'm not laughing right now

 

[Avis]

My husband has lost control of his bladder, so he pees whenever & wherever he feels the need to. He refuses to wear depends (a quilted underwear that will absorb the wetness from his skin and contain the pee). Any ideas on how to keep the carpet in the bedroom dry.

Many thanks in advance.

You used to be able to buy heavy clear plastic floor runners. Maybe if you bought a couple and placed them where he 'goes" you might just be able to mop up and save your carpet. My husband is incontinent too. He wears pull ups but he is constantly wetting on the toilet floor, or taking off his pull ups and dripping where ever he walks so I empathize with you. It is not pleasant.

 

[Bunpoots]

I really hope this phase is quick to pass @dancer12 . At least my dad headed for the toilet - although he dribbled all the way there so no carpet was spared...and it was never him who did it - even while he was weeing he would deny it!!

I remember another member having this problem with her dad and, even when he went into full time care they couldn't get to him quick enough to stop him watering the house plants and anything else that look as though it was a good place to pee. It only resolved itself when he lost the awareness of needing to pee.

I'm sorry to be so negative but I suspect that damage limitation is the best approach. If your OH is anything like my dad he just cannot understand that he is at fault and pointing it out will only make you both angry. Dad drove me nuts with this and I only got him to wear incontinence products by tricking him into it...even then it was a real struggle.

Perhaps it's time to consider respite or even full time care.

 

[Toony Oony]

Hi again @dancer12 - Over here DIY stores sell big rolls of sticky back plastic - decorators use them to protect carpets and flooring when they are painting. Perhaps that could help if it was strategically placed?

Another thought is a specialist clothing company here, who sell all in one sets with a lockable zipper!!! You could pad him up and lock it in ... Might be a possible when going out?

In a couple of days Mum's CH are replacing the heavy duty carpet in her room with vinyl flooring. Even with the clever CH extractor cleaners they cannot get rid of the smell, and the cleaning staff are getting fed up with almost daily clean ups. Sadly, Mum is a lot further along the dementia journey and it's not just the pee that's the problem

Good luck!

 

[dancer12]

Hi Roseleigh:

You used to be able to buy heavy clear plastic floor runners. Maybe if you bought a couple and placed them where he 'goes" you might just be able to mop up and save your carpet. My husband is incontinent too. He wears pull ups but he is constantly wetting on the toilet floor, or taking off his pull ups and dripping where ever he walks so I empathize with you. It is not pleasant.

Hi Avis:
Problem is he goes anywhere, if he feels he urge to go he goes, one time he peed on our front screen glass door, he needed to go so he dropped his pants pulled out his pee thing and peed against our glass door in full view of all passers by. We live on a fairly busy street, so he could have caused an accident if two cars were going by and stopped to look. He has found a way to cause an accident without even driving Have a nice day. Thanks for kind thoughts & words.

 

[dancer12]

I really hope this phase is quick to pass @dancer12 . At least my dad headed for the toilet - although he dribbled all the way there so no carpet was spared...and it was never him who did it - even while he was weeing he would deny it!!

I remember another member having this problem with her dad and, even when he went into full time care they couldn't get to him quick enough to stop him watering the house plants and anything else that look as though it was a good place to pee. It only resolved itself when he lost the awareness of needing to pee.

I'm sorry to be so negative but I suspect that damage limitation is the best approach. If your OH is anything like my dad he just cannot understand that he is at fault and pointing it out will only make you both angry. Dad drove me nuts with this and I only got him to wear incontinence products by tricking him into it...even then it was a real struggle.

Perhaps it's time to consider respite or even full time care.

Hi Bunpoos:

It's so sad when they don't understand, he is trying to do the right thing but somehow it always turns out different than he wanted it to. I have considered full time care but that would kill him, he depends on me for everything even though he won't admit it. Right now I'm just waiting for his doctor to get back to me . Have a nice day.

 

[dancer12]

Hi again @dancer12 - Over here DIY stores sell big rolls of sticky back plastic - decorators use them to protect carpets and flooring when they are painting. Perhaps that could help if it was strategically placed?

Another thought is a specialist clothing company here, who sell all in one sets with a lockable zipper!!! You could pad him up and lock it in ... Might be a possible when going out?

In a couple of days Mum's CH are replacing the heavy duty carpet in her room with vinyl flooring. Even with the clever CH extractor cleaners they cannot get rid of the smell, and the cleaning staff are getting fed up with almost daily clean ups. Sadly, Mum is a lot further along the dementia journey and it's not just the pee that's the problem

Good luck!

Hi Toony Oony:

More problems in the future, can't wait. First 4 years were a breeze and this year it hit me like a ton of bricks. And so the adventure into the realms of dementia begins. I always wanted some excitement in my life.
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Thanks for your kind thoughts & words. Have a wonderful day.