I am looking after my 94 year old father and he has recently been diagnosed with Vascular Dementia. My question is, what is the best way to deal with verbal aggression. He says he cant trust me. I and others want to murder him. The house is falling down. He has obsessions with his shoes/keys/money that they have been hidden/stolen etc. Every one wants to steal his few possessions. He says he knows the plan and it is very bad of me. He uses a Zimmer and walking sticks and wonders off in the house as soon as he thinks he can not be seen. He has the idea I have a formula and thinks the house is falling because the walls are moving. He has a cataract that makes him think things are moving. I really should not get upset, but I can't help it. He will not listen to reason and when I say the walls are not moving he gets angry, anyone can see them moving. If I do or don't say anything he says this part of the house is falling down and we have to get out. When I tell him it is probably his cataract is says "it's absolute rubbish"
I have help some of the time though the other carers are going on holiday soon. How should I react to this behaviour, this does not happen all the time, he is usually the kindest and most gentle person you could find. Any advice would be gratefully received.
I have help some of the time though the other carers are going on holiday soon. How should I react to this behaviour, this does not happen all the time, he is usually the kindest and most gentle person you could find. Any advice would be gratefully received.