I've been looking online for some advice / help - maybe this is the place...
My mother is already in residential care (with dementia, parkingsons etc.) she cannot feed herself any more, and is barely able to chat because she forgets her words so quickly. She spends most of her time alone in her room.
We have been told that mum cannot stay where she is for much longer, and my sister has found a really nice home, but it is so far from me that instead of visiting mum 2 or 3 times a week (or more) it would be at most once a week. I feel sure that mum gets a sense of security and reassurance from my frequent visits. Am I deluding myself? I know she is scared and lost at times, and she calms down a lot when I am there, and settles into a soft, smiley state. I am panicking now as I fear that the family try to move her to this faraway place - and the thought of this happening makes me feel so sad and sick.
My sister visits once every 5 weeks. She says if the home can look after her well then I don't need to worry about mum.
Even as I'm writing this I know that nobody else can answer this without seeing mum and me - but if you do have any comments I'd be pleased - thanks
My mother is already in residential care (with dementia, parkingsons etc.) she cannot feed herself any more, and is barely able to chat because she forgets her words so quickly. She spends most of her time alone in her room.
We have been told that mum cannot stay where she is for much longer, and my sister has found a really nice home, but it is so far from me that instead of visiting mum 2 or 3 times a week (or more) it would be at most once a week. I feel sure that mum gets a sense of security and reassurance from my frequent visits. Am I deluding myself? I know she is scared and lost at times, and she calms down a lot when I am there, and settles into a soft, smiley state. I am panicking now as I fear that the family try to move her to this faraway place - and the thought of this happening makes me feel so sad and sick.
My sister visits once every 5 weeks. She says if the home can look after her well then I don't need to worry about mum.
Even as I'm writing this I know that nobody else can answer this without seeing mum and me - but if you do have any comments I'd be pleased - thanks