Thank you Jaded 'n' faded, yes it's definitely frustrating, but I am trying to keep him onside. Luckily a CPN and a support worker from the local mental health team became involved very quickly due to Mum's 'imposter' delusions.
Dad has accepted a weekly visit from them and I have their contact details, I've been able to talk to the CPN regularly, but Dad has asked her not to tell me what's going on, as he doesn't want me worrying (she said she needs to respect his wishes, as he's her nok - I do live 300 miles away, I also travel to Bahrain frequently as my husband lives & works there.
I do think Dad is trying to protect me, he has promised to keep me updated, and let me know if he needs me to go to their home.
But I am finding it difficult, especially as Dad is reluctant to tell me what's going on, or have conversations about necessary plans (finances, wills - neither have one😕 and lasting power of attorney)
Mum has a date for her brain scan 15th March, so hopefully it will give us a diagnosis.
I am certain Mum has Dementia, the CPN has said she thinks it is Frontal Lobe, but neither of us has mentioned this to Mum or Dad.
I am so pleased I found this forum and grateful for any advice. Reading individual posts about the challenges and every day experiences of living with this cruel disease, has given me an insight as to what might happen to Mum in the future.
I have also purchased Wendy Mitchell's 3 books following the information I read on this forum. Thank you all for your honesty and daily posts.