I am a single child now in my early 50's and my mother is suffering from memory issues and a change in her behaviour. She has been registered with our local Community Mental Health team for 4 years now and we still have not had a confirmed diagnosis of Alzheimers because she does not completely follow the normal pattern. We are waiting for one more brain scan, however her Dr has said he would put money on it that she has Alzheimers and hopefully this final scan will help.
In the meantime though, my Dad is going through hell on a daily bases. Mum has always been a jealous type of person, but she now is jealous of me and my 10 year old daughter as far as my Dad is concerned. My Dad has turned his life around and has had to learn how to cook, wash clothes and look after the house as my mother has no interest in any of that at all. She seems to have lost all concept of time, and can't tell the difference between 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 weeks or even 5 years. So she is no longer safe in the kitchen. She keeps referring to her mother being alive, however she passed away over 25 years ago and she won't accept her home is her home and keeps saying she wants to go home. Along with this she has turned very spiteful and sometimes vile towards my Dad, constantly calling him a lying *******. Tonight my Dad finally broke down to me and my partner and said he just wanted to run away. My Dad is a very proud man so this is very unusual for him. I've tried suggesting help, but Mum won't allow it and takes it out on Dad when I leave. She's refused to have the Community nurse visit because she was a larger coloured lady and Mum made some very nasty comment after she left.
I have seen my Dad deteriate over the past 6 months and I feel I am loosing both of them. Has anyone else been in thus situation and if so what did you do? Please can somebody help me?
In the meantime though, my Dad is going through hell on a daily bases. Mum has always been a jealous type of person, but she now is jealous of me and my 10 year old daughter as far as my Dad is concerned. My Dad has turned his life around and has had to learn how to cook, wash clothes and look after the house as my mother has no interest in any of that at all. She seems to have lost all concept of time, and can't tell the difference between 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 weeks or even 5 years. So she is no longer safe in the kitchen. She keeps referring to her mother being alive, however she passed away over 25 years ago and she won't accept her home is her home and keeps saying she wants to go home. Along with this she has turned very spiteful and sometimes vile towards my Dad, constantly calling him a lying *******. Tonight my Dad finally broke down to me and my partner and said he just wanted to run away. My Dad is a very proud man so this is very unusual for him. I've tried suggesting help, but Mum won't allow it and takes it out on Dad when I leave. She's refused to have the Community nurse visit because she was a larger coloured lady and Mum made some very nasty comment after she left.
I have seen my Dad deteriate over the past 6 months and I feel I am loosing both of them. Has anyone else been in thus situation and if so what did you do? Please can somebody help me?
