Hello everyone. I am new here. We care for my dad who has vascular dementia. He has lived with us pretty much full time now for 18 months. He needs a great deal of support and assistance, which I am sure I do not need to tell you.
I am lucky in that I have a wonderful husband and children. Thank goodness for them. One of our lovely little ones has autism. It's all pretty full on as I am sure you can imagine, particularly as we have to juggle my working in the nhs in a very stressful area, the children, the house, and of course, my dad (plus all his past life issues which need sorting out)
My dad is lovely and we love him very much. Unfortunately my brother is far from lovely, and has spent the past year making as much trouble as possible - including keeping my dad and our family from seeing his children, as I gather, a form of punishment for my being made POA. It is very sad.
I have totally had enough of all the upset. Life is quite hard enough without him adding to it. I have read lots of threads on the invisibles and know that we are not alone, but I still feel very alone. My brother is so firmly of the opinion that caring is worthless, takes no time at all and costs nothing that it makes my blood boil . He wants only for his inheritance. How can I possibly overcome these feelings, they are making me ill, and I know he is getting such great pleasure from all the pain he is causing.
Is this all going to be okay in the end? Desperately needing some hope and reassurance to hang onto.
Thank you very much.
completely exhausted workerbee
I am lucky in that I have a wonderful husband and children. Thank goodness for them. One of our lovely little ones has autism. It's all pretty full on as I am sure you can imagine, particularly as we have to juggle my working in the nhs in a very stressful area, the children, the house, and of course, my dad (plus all his past life issues which need sorting out)
My dad is lovely and we love him very much. Unfortunately my brother is far from lovely, and has spent the past year making as much trouble as possible - including keeping my dad and our family from seeing his children, as I gather, a form of punishment for my being made POA. It is very sad.
I have totally had enough of all the upset. Life is quite hard enough without him adding to it. I have read lots of threads on the invisibles and know that we are not alone, but I still feel very alone. My brother is so firmly of the opinion that caring is worthless, takes no time at all and costs nothing that it makes my blood boil . He wants only for his inheritance. How can I possibly overcome these feelings, they are making me ill, and I know he is getting such great pleasure from all the pain he is causing.
Is this all going to be okay in the end? Desperately needing some hope and reassurance to hang onto.
Thank you very much.
completely exhausted workerbee