Hello everyone my name is Liz. I am 57 my mum was diagnosed with vascular dementia and alzheimers in may 23. She lives with my dad who has mental health issues. Mum has not left the house since covid. I work 3 days a week and visit most days to give dad some respite and help mum shower every thursday and do housework laundry sort medication etc as well as my own chores. Dad is finding it difficult to understand how to communicate with mum as her reality can be different to his - i have said he needs to not argue with her but agree but he doesnt understand this. I always feel when i go round something needs sorting and never just enjoy mums company for a change. I have been quite unwell prior to her diagnosis and since- anxiety and trouble eating. Decided to go to a mindfullness course starting today and enjoyed it and felt relaxed and as i left dad rang with another issue to sort out😮💨.
Mum has a carer to sit with her for 2hrs on thu to chat and give dad a break but he doesnt like this even though it does mum good and he tries to come up with reasons to stop it but i have been firm that it should continue.
Mum has started taking memantine which has helped with her emotional outbursts which is good.
How do you all cope with these difficulties ??
What is a good personal alarm system for some who cant use a phone ?
Thanks for listening- hope my next message is more cheery.
Mum has a carer to sit with her for 2hrs on thu to chat and give dad a break but he doesnt like this even though it does mum good and he tries to come up with reasons to stop it but i have been firm that it should continue.
Mum has started taking memantine which has helped with her emotional outbursts which is good.
How do you all cope with these difficulties ??
What is a good personal alarm system for some who cant use a phone ?
Thanks for listening- hope my next message is more cheery.