I’m new here but I’ve just joined up as I’ve been forced today to put my mum who has Alzheimer’s into emergency respite care. My dad is her carer but he was taken ill last night and asked me to go over this morning. One look at him and I dialled 999. He’s been kept in hospital probably for a little while. We have great carers but no overnight care so I asked social services to find somewhere for her. She has never been in care before - the home they found is pretty basic but all that is available at such short notice . I’ve just had to leave her there tonight. She begged me not to leave her, she cried and then started screaming and shouting- she was so upset and she knew what was happening. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done and now I feel utterly useless and horrible.