There's alot of background to this, such as my mum refusing to move near me, sister not helping etc. So this in itself is just a simple question ( which I know may not have a simple answer).
My mother doesn't live near me. I can do the journey in a day but add in driving her when I get there, it ends up about 7 hours driving each visit. I have a severe mental health illness myself plus some other physical problems.
My mum is getting worse now and always seems better when she sees me. I'd like to try and see her twice a week. The best and least time consuming way to do this is to stay in her town for 1 night.
However, I have tried staying with her overnight before and the constant demands, questions and never ending talking has made my bipolar worse and lack of sleep and stress has made my physical pains worse.
I have sole health and financial LPA and don't work but my husband does.
I would like to visit my mum one day, stay overnight but away from her to rally myself, and see her the following day. Airbnb for a room is between £50 and £60 a night.
Do you think it will be seen to be OK to pay myself from mum's money top up any travel and accommodation expenses that my carers allowance won't meet each week? My mum can afford it and if she wasn't super, super paranoid and anxious about money AND understood the importance to her welfare of my visiting and the importance of my welfare to have a break overnight she'd even offer to pay.
We have joint control of her bank account, although I have had to limit the amount she has access to for various reasons and she doesn't understand bank statements.
I already pay a neighbour of my mum a regular sum for expenses to take her to appointments etc.
My mother doesn't live near me. I can do the journey in a day but add in driving her when I get there, it ends up about 7 hours driving each visit. I have a severe mental health illness myself plus some other physical problems.
My mum is getting worse now and always seems better when she sees me. I'd like to try and see her twice a week. The best and least time consuming way to do this is to stay in her town for 1 night.
However, I have tried staying with her overnight before and the constant demands, questions and never ending talking has made my bipolar worse and lack of sleep and stress has made my physical pains worse.
I have sole health and financial LPA and don't work but my husband does.
I would like to visit my mum one day, stay overnight but away from her to rally myself, and see her the following day. Airbnb for a room is between £50 and £60 a night.
Do you think it will be seen to be OK to pay myself from mum's money top up any travel and accommodation expenses that my carers allowance won't meet each week? My mum can afford it and if she wasn't super, super paranoid and anxious about money AND understood the importance to her welfare of my visiting and the importance of my welfare to have a break overnight she'd even offer to pay.
We have joint control of her bank account, although I have had to limit the amount she has access to for various reasons and she doesn't understand bank statements.
I already pay a neighbour of my mum a regular sum for expenses to take her to appointments etc.
