I always felt for Dad that live in carers should have worked and that is one of the reasons I was so disappointed, he wasn't aggressive or abusive but could sometimes be difficult with refusals, personal care etc. I am sure there are some lovely live in carers where it does work well and I was hoping we would have found one. The live in care we had was for Mon to Fri and we carried on caring for Dad in his house over the weekends. The cost for this was £650 per week and I'm not sure whether successful live in care arrangements accept that the carer may be disturbed but we were told even Dad's moving around making noise if it woke the carer they naturally need night time sleep plus the agency had to adhere to maximum working hours and it would mean we would have to have a 2nd night carer had for this reason if it had continued, it would have doubled the care cost. However cost wasn't the issue, would have gladly paid equivalent to care home just to keep him in his own home, for us and our experience it was the lack of flexibility of the carers to adapt to Dad's ways which weren't that great to be honest where it seemed to us that the carers we tried set such hard and fast rules for dad and after all they were essentially a guest in his house to help him not change him to their way of working. Impossible with dementia in any case which showed their lack of understanding and even respect. I wish we had been given someone like you Varandas! No doubt Dad would still be at home now, more guilt! Anyway, good luck Jess I really do hope you get a good one.