My dad has failing memory and remembers many things but not always. About 2 years ago my brother said he wanted to get a POA over dad as his wife (a professional) was not happy holding all financial/legal documents pertaining to dad. As she was a professional, dad had asked her to look after these things and be an executor in his will. At this stage dad had perfectly good memory and functioning. My brother asked me to sign an POA application and I refused.
From this point on my brother and his wife have not wanted to have anything to do with me. However I have recently discovered that my bother and his wife got a POA last year and I have been told they also persuaded dad to change his will. Dad told me on the phone that he felt he had no choice in order to continue getting support from my brother and his wife. Up to the point when they seem to have got POA (I did not know at the time) I had been concerned that my brother was organising non-registered care through one or two people that my sister-in-law knew. My brother also said he had to look after dad and had him for some meals but also took him out to expensive places where dad felt he had to pay for these meals for all my brother's immediate family. Dad is/was 'well-off'. At about the same point as getting POA my brother changed all dad's care arrangements and these are now good with registered providers. At the time I thought they had done this in response to my concerns. One of the unofficial carers was apparently demanding money from dad.
What can I do please? My sister-in-law who was a professional has recently died of a heart attack so is POA valid? My brother has refused to give me a copy of the new will and I have discovered wants to get dad into a home (he is on a waiting list). My brother has also refused to get a new POA jointly with me. But this is the last thing dad would want. Can I challenge POA and what can I do about the new will? If it is not right or appropriate for dad to be in a home I want to stop it. Also I am not sure if anything has happened to dad's savings and money.
Thanks
From this point on my brother and his wife have not wanted to have anything to do with me. However I have recently discovered that my bother and his wife got a POA last year and I have been told they also persuaded dad to change his will. Dad told me on the phone that he felt he had no choice in order to continue getting support from my brother and his wife. Up to the point when they seem to have got POA (I did not know at the time) I had been concerned that my brother was organising non-registered care through one or two people that my sister-in-law knew. My brother also said he had to look after dad and had him for some meals but also took him out to expensive places where dad felt he had to pay for these meals for all my brother's immediate family. Dad is/was 'well-off'. At about the same point as getting POA my brother changed all dad's care arrangements and these are now good with registered providers. At the time I thought they had done this in response to my concerns. One of the unofficial carers was apparently demanding money from dad.
What can I do please? My sister-in-law who was a professional has recently died of a heart attack so is POA valid? My brother has refused to give me a copy of the new will and I have discovered wants to get dad into a home (he is on a waiting list). My brother has also refused to get a new POA jointly with me. But this is the last thing dad would want. Can I challenge POA and what can I do about the new will? If it is not right or appropriate for dad to be in a home I want to stop it. Also I am not sure if anything has happened to dad's savings and money.
Thanks
