Hi, I've recently come to accept that I think my granny has entered the later stages of her battle with dementia. She's been in a home since October 2016, and for the last 3 weeks she's had very little to eat (maybe a few mouthfuls) and the last week she has had very little to drink as well (maybe a couple sips). She's lost half a stone in 5 weeks, is very weak, when we saw her on Monday she was in bed and could barely open her eyes; saying very final things like apologising and thanking us for what we've done for her. Her speech is very slurred and it's very difficult to understand what she says. Her hands are very cold, and her care needs booklet does mention incontinence. She often asks for dead relatives, and the only thing she will ask about other than that is if she can go home, or if she can see our dog.
We are told by the carers today that she has had a bit more to eat and drink but whilst I don't believe they'd lie to us I am having a hard time believing it as was totally uninterested in drinking when we were there.
I actually live 200 miles away. My dad is a single dad that works full time and can only see her on the weekend. I feel so out of the loop a lot of the time. She basically raised me and I can't stop worrying about her condition. I'm slowly coming to terms with the fact that she may not make it to Christmas if she doesn't eat or drink more but the slight improvement today makes me feel like I'm making it out to be worse than it is.
The carers are fantastic but are always very optimistic for our sake, especially me considering I'm still fairly young. I know everyone is different, but realistically is my granny entering the end of her life, and how much longer typically can someone with dementia last on little food and water considering this change was very sudden and drastic.
Thanks.
We are told by the carers today that she has had a bit more to eat and drink but whilst I don't believe they'd lie to us I am having a hard time believing it as was totally uninterested in drinking when we were there.
I actually live 200 miles away. My dad is a single dad that works full time and can only see her on the weekend. I feel so out of the loop a lot of the time. She basically raised me and I can't stop worrying about her condition. I'm slowly coming to terms with the fact that she may not make it to Christmas if she doesn't eat or drink more but the slight improvement today makes me feel like I'm making it out to be worse than it is.
The carers are fantastic but are always very optimistic for our sake, especially me considering I'm still fairly young. I know everyone is different, but realistically is my granny entering the end of her life, and how much longer typically can someone with dementia last on little food and water considering this change was very sudden and drastic.
Thanks.