going home

[janet m]

my husband still goes out with me to different events but all of a sudden he has had enough & wants to go home -is this normal-he doesn' tlike to go to new places either

 

[Grannie G]

It`s perfectly normal @janet m

Socialising proves more and more stressful for so many people with dementia. They are often overwhelmed by large groups of people, find it difficult to follow the conversation and may feel confused and wish for the safety and security of home.

 

[margherita]

Hi @janet m ,
I have recently realized that my husband prefers not to meet with people who knew him when he did not have Alzheimer's.
His sister has invited us to spend Christmas day with her and her family, but he does not want to go. He says he prefers to celebrate at home, the two of us only. I think it is an excuse. It is as if he were ashamed of his illness and did not want people to notice he has Alzheimer's.

 

[jaymor]

My husband constantly wanted to go out so every day was an away day. Even with two foot of snow on the ground he expected 5o to go out in the car. Then he started to keep asking where the car was and we spent half of our day out returning to the car to assure him I knew where it was. This then progressed to getting there and then wanting to return home. He got agitated if we were late going out and then anxious to get back.

I don’t think it was because he wanted the safety of his home because he was adamant the house we had lived in for nearly 50 years was not his home. Even coming home he was asking where we were going and why. It’s so sad and difficult to deal with.

 

[canary]

My mum always wanted to go out. I would arrive and her first question was "where are we going?" Then we would arrive and 5 mins later she wanted to get back. She just seemed to like the journey and, looking back now, I wonder whether she thought that by going somewhere else that she would leave the dementia behind

 

[kindred]

My mum always wanted to go out. I would arrive and her first question was "where are we going?" Then we would arrive and 5 mins later she wanted to get back. She just seemed to like the journey and, looking back now, I wonder whether she thought that by going somewhere else that she would leave the dementia behind

Oh Canary, I find that so moving. Gxx

 

[Spamar]

OH would go anywhere so long as there was a coffee and cake, preferably a brownie, at the end of it!