Hi
My father has middle stage dementia and he has started to give his food out to a homeless person.
Now normally, you would think what a kind gesture however this homeless person has taken advantage of my father financially in the past and she isn’t a nice person.
My dad keeps taking food out of the house to her - now it may seem harmless but it’s costing me hundreds a week to replenish as he goes out to see her at least 5 times a day. I get to his at the weekend and his cupboards are bare and I’m worried he is starving himself due to this. I know he gets at least two meals a day as carer comes in morning and he goes to a social club at lunch time. It’s when he comes back that’s when the frequent visits and giving away food happens.
I am at a loss at what to do. (Ps police and social services aware of this ‘friendship’ but won’t do anything about it as dad is willingly giving her things).
Any suggestions on how I can stop the food from leaving his house with him? I don’t want to restrict the food from him as he won’t have anything for tea but then again he isn’t getting it anyway as he is giving it away!
I have tried looking into delivery services for tea time but they stop at 2pm and he’s out at the club. Befriender services won’t go everyday. As thought maybe if he’s with someone it would stop him giving food away and he can go for walks with them. So not restrictive but they can let him know not to take it on walks.
I have told my dad to stop doing this but he denies he has done it. I show him proof he has and he just apologies and says he won’t do it again.
My father has middle stage dementia and he has started to give his food out to a homeless person.
Now normally, you would think what a kind gesture however this homeless person has taken advantage of my father financially in the past and she isn’t a nice person.
My dad keeps taking food out of the house to her - now it may seem harmless but it’s costing me hundreds a week to replenish as he goes out to see her at least 5 times a day. I get to his at the weekend and his cupboards are bare and I’m worried he is starving himself due to this. I know he gets at least two meals a day as carer comes in morning and he goes to a social club at lunch time. It’s when he comes back that’s when the frequent visits and giving away food happens.
I am at a loss at what to do. (Ps police and social services aware of this ‘friendship’ but won’t do anything about it as dad is willingly giving her things).
Any suggestions on how I can stop the food from leaving his house with him? I don’t want to restrict the food from him as he won’t have anything for tea but then again he isn’t getting it anyway as he is giving it away!
I have tried looking into delivery services for tea time but they stop at 2pm and he’s out at the club. Befriender services won’t go everyday. As thought maybe if he’s with someone it would stop him giving food away and he can go for walks with them. So not restrictive but they can let him know not to take it on walks.
I have told my dad to stop doing this but he denies he has done it. I show him proof he has and he just apologies and says he won’t do it again.