Hi everyone
Just wondered if anyone has/is going through a similar situation to me and their thoughts on what to do.
I am the main carer for my mum who has alzheimers and my mum refuses any outside help whatsoever, even though it has been explained to her that it would help me. I have managed to cope for the last 18 months, but finding that as mum is getting worse I am struggling to cope and getting irritable. (I suffer from depression and have been off work since March this year and this is my third episode of work in two years.
It is getting to the point where I will soon be losing my job because of all the sick leave I have had and at the moment do not think I could cope with a job as well as looking after my mum.
What makes it so difficult is that my mum refuses to do things I ask her no matter how many times or whatever I say to her. She just gets upset or angry with me as if I am in the wrong. For example she is supposed to put and keep her digital hearing aids in all day, and does not wear them at all which makes it very difficult for me as not only does she ask me the same thing over and over again, but she cannot hear me so I have to repeat it even more because of her deafness.
Another example is to do with her incontinence, I ask her to wear pads at night, but she just hides them under the pillows.
I really don't know what to do any more as I am beginning to feel guilty that I cannot cope any more and if social workers say she has capacity then she can refuse any carers going in.
Please could I have your views. It would be very much appreciated.
Thanks
S.
Just wondered if anyone has/is going through a similar situation to me and their thoughts on what to do.
I am the main carer for my mum who has alzheimers and my mum refuses any outside help whatsoever, even though it has been explained to her that it would help me. I have managed to cope for the last 18 months, but finding that as mum is getting worse I am struggling to cope and getting irritable. (I suffer from depression and have been off work since March this year and this is my third episode of work in two years.
It is getting to the point where I will soon be losing my job because of all the sick leave I have had and at the moment do not think I could cope with a job as well as looking after my mum.
What makes it so difficult is that my mum refuses to do things I ask her no matter how many times or whatever I say to her. She just gets upset or angry with me as if I am in the wrong. For example she is supposed to put and keep her digital hearing aids in all day, and does not wear them at all which makes it very difficult for me as not only does she ask me the same thing over and over again, but she cannot hear me so I have to repeat it even more because of her deafness.
Another example is to do with her incontinence, I ask her to wear pads at night, but she just hides them under the pillows.
I really don't know what to do any more as I am beginning to feel guilty that I cannot cope any more and if social workers say she has capacity then she can refuse any carers going in.
Please could I have your views. It would be very much appreciated.
Thanks
S.