It's probably a rather basic topic for those of you who have been caring for a while, but our Mum is now progressing through middle-stage and our Dad (primary carer) is definitely overloaded now.
We've been trying to encourage him to engage with care and social groups but he's annoyingly stubborn (and maybe embarrassed?) so he dismisses any advice and they have become heartbreakingly reclusive. That, in essence, has been HIS fault. Our reluctance to push this more assertively is a moral dilemma as we desperately try to support his wish to have agency and be the ultimate decision-maker. Now, things are too advanced to have rational conversations about it. It feels we're at a watershed now when help from 'strangers' are absolutely vital and being around other 'old people' is the right way to re-socialise them both.
Question: how do we turn "No" into "Yes"? Or even "OK, let's give it a try".
We've been trying to encourage him to engage with care and social groups but he's annoyingly stubborn (and maybe embarrassed?) so he dismisses any advice and they have become heartbreakingly reclusive. That, in essence, has been HIS fault. Our reluctance to push this more assertively is a moral dilemma as we desperately try to support his wish to have agency and be the ultimate decision-maker. Now, things are too advanced to have rational conversations about it. It feels we're at a watershed now when help from 'strangers' are absolutely vital and being around other 'old people' is the right way to re-socialise them both.
Question: how do we turn "No" into "Yes"? Or even "OK, let's give it a try".