First time poster here, not sure if i am doing this right!
My dad has fairly severe, officially un-diagnosed dementia and has been steadily deteriorating since the beginning of the year. My frustration however is not with him its with my mum. She currently does most of his care, apart from a get up and put to bed carer (which she is very resistant to) and day by day she is getting more and more frustrated and agitated not only by my dad but with everything in life in general. Her physical health is not 100% so I feel she is slowly starting to run herself into the ground. However when you try and talk to her and offer advice or guidance she will either brush you off of get angry that she is being told off.
I understand that being with my dad for 24 hrs a day must be physically and mentally exhausting but shes so resistant to any extra support - even from myself and my partner.
I know this is more of a statement than a question but i just wondered if anyone has experience something similar and has any idea or suggestions of ways to approach this.
Thank You
My dad has fairly severe, officially un-diagnosed dementia and has been steadily deteriorating since the beginning of the year. My frustration however is not with him its with my mum. She currently does most of his care, apart from a get up and put to bed carer (which she is very resistant to) and day by day she is getting more and more frustrated and agitated not only by my dad but with everything in life in general. Her physical health is not 100% so I feel she is slowly starting to run herself into the ground. However when you try and talk to her and offer advice or guidance she will either brush you off of get angry that she is being told off.
I understand that being with my dad for 24 hrs a day must be physically and mentally exhausting but shes so resistant to any extra support - even from myself and my partner.
I know this is more of a statement than a question but i just wondered if anyone has experience something similar and has any idea or suggestions of ways to approach this.
Thank You