Hello all
I have noticed that my Mum seems to be going through a feeling guilty and worthless phase and is becoming more and more dependant on me. I do see her everyday but need to be able to go away soon so I've set up carers going in twice daily (they aren't great as only ask them to do safety checks, meds and remove old food left randomly in cupboards which they forget to do, but are definitely better than nothing).
Also, one of the ladies at the retirement place where Mum lives told me she's been wandering at night; trying to go to the shops at 9pm. I don't think it's as serious as I sounds as she sometimes confuses day and night but am I over rationalising?
I am also worried as I am the only relative and her care falls to me which I do feel happy and priviledged to do but I'm worried it's putting an unhealthy strain on my relationship with my Partner. I want to get external support so I don't offload on him but I work full time and run around catching up at other times.
It just seems like an enevitable down hill slide from now on and I just want to do the best for everyone. Any tips on how best to remain positive and unstressed?
Thanks for letting me get this of my chest. Much needed and appreciated.
I have noticed that my Mum seems to be going through a feeling guilty and worthless phase and is becoming more and more dependant on me. I do see her everyday but need to be able to go away soon so I've set up carers going in twice daily (they aren't great as only ask them to do safety checks, meds and remove old food left randomly in cupboards which they forget to do, but are definitely better than nothing).
Also, one of the ladies at the retirement place where Mum lives told me she's been wandering at night; trying to go to the shops at 9pm. I don't think it's as serious as I sounds as she sometimes confuses day and night but am I over rationalising?
I am also worried as I am the only relative and her care falls to me which I do feel happy and priviledged to do but I'm worried it's putting an unhealthy strain on my relationship with my Partner. I want to get external support so I don't offload on him but I work full time and run around catching up at other times.
It just seems like an enevitable down hill slide from now on and I just want to do the best for everyone. Any tips on how best to remain positive and unstressed?
Thanks for letting me get this of my chest. Much needed and appreciated.