Hi again
@Yardman
That is exactly what I had to do back in August. My wife was admitted to hospital just before the end of a 2 week respite stay. I arrived back in the early ours to get a call from her sister explaining that the care home had called for an ambulance.
On my arrival at A&E, I was horrified to see the state of her. She'd gone from being fully mobile (although she was shuffling a lot more) to being unable to stand at all. The hospital were looking to discharge her "back to the care home" until I informed them that she was due to come back home in 2 days! I said that in her current (immobile) condition, there was no way I could care for her, so they needed to get the wheels in motion with whoever was needed, as she was going nowhere! So she spent a week on a ward, whilst the OT's, medics and hospital-based social worker team (who never actually came to see us, just exchanged phone calls!) procrastinated.
They ended up transferring her back to the care centre for a 6 week assessment (funded by the NHS). Although they tried to re-enable her, it was obvious that she was not going to regain her mobility. A case worker was assigned and I prepared myself for a battle, as I fully expected them to recommend a home care package, which I didn't think would be appropriate.
The their credit, at a best interest meeting, the case worker said that residential care would be the best option for my wife so this went before the LA "panel" who agreed that she needed a nursing home. Which is where she has been since the end of September.
My wife was just on the upper threshold of the financial criteria and with the reality that nursing home costs would quickly deplete her savings, they thankfully agreed to sort out these arrangements and after a financial assessment, my wife has to contribute her state pension and half of a small occupational pension each month (4 weekly). This is obviously a lot less than it would have been, if we had needed to fully fund ourselves, especially due to them getting the NH place at the LA rate.
So good luck with sorting things out for your wife and just as important, look after yourself too.
Phil