No, you are not alone. Apathy, loss of empathy and emotional blunting are all early symptoms of FTD. My OH likes to spend hours in silence, on his own in a quiet room with his android tablet. He gets stimulus overload and any noise will set off an outburst of rage, so I cant have music on, or TV that he doesnt want to watch, housework and other work in the house is difficult and Im tip-toeing around like theres a sleeping baby in the house!
Yes, I miss the hugs and other shows of affection too. I have recently come to the conclusion that most of the time I am just not in my OHs mind. He is not purposely ignoring me, he simply does not think of me. I used to complain that he treated me like a housekeeper, not a wife (and I too considered divorce), but since his diagnosis I understand why. It is a hard thing to get your head round. I have had to stop thinking about myself as a wife and to think about myself as his carer.
When you are dealing with FTD routine and environment are everything. By routine I mean, of course his routine - its no good trying to impose your routine on him OH has his own rituals and routines that help him get through the day without having to make too many decisions and I have to go along with them. His decision making is very, very poor and he has made some spectacularly bad ones. I can still leave him for a few hours a day (he is still in quite early stages), so I have joined a couple of groups to give me some sanity and when things get too much I go round to the local library. It is becoming increasingly hard to find things for "us" to do, although he will go to a couple of coffee groups. They are not dementia cafes as he is still very aware of his surroundings, but most people there have experience of dementia and are very understanding.
Yes, I miss the hugs and other shows of affection too. I have recently come to the conclusion that most of the time I am just not in my OHs mind. He is not purposely ignoring me, he simply does not think of me. I used to complain that he treated me like a housekeeper, not a wife (and I too considered divorce), but since his diagnosis I understand why. It is a hard thing to get your head round. I have had to stop thinking about myself as a wife and to think about myself as his carer.
When you are dealing with FTD routine and environment are everything. By routine I mean, of course his routine - its no good trying to impose your routine on him OH has his own rituals and routines that help him get through the day without having to make too many decisions and I have to go along with them. His decision making is very, very poor and he has made some spectacularly bad ones. I can still leave him for a few hours a day (he is still in quite early stages), so I have joined a couple of groups to give me some sanity and when things get too much I go round to the local library. It is becoming increasingly hard to find things for "us" to do, although he will go to a couple of coffee groups. They are not dementia cafes as he is still very aware of his surroundings, but most people there have experience of dementia and are very understanding.