Hello When we first moved Dad into his care home 15 months ago, one of the questions on the paper work was if we wanted him to have a flu jab or not. We couldn't decide and so said yes as it was the easiest thing to do. Then last year before we knew it, he had had one. We have thought now that we would ask for him not to have it next time (The guilt and awfulness of this decision is all terrible) but, acting as the voice of Dad, we know he wouldn't want anything to help prolong his life. I have been witness to him shouting that he wants to die. Speaking to the manager of the care home about it, she seemed shocked and horrified that we were requesting for him not to have it. Again, I felt like a monster, and explained that this would be his wishes. Only to be dismissed with the comment that every else would be having it and if he didn't he would be very ill. I feel really bad about all of this and I haven't been back since. I wonder why they put the question on the form in the first place. Has anyone else had any experience of this, or does anyone have any advice about what to do? Many thanks.