I too am struggling with the decision to let mam go in to a care home. It is OK talking about it and looking at them but I can't imagine actually leaving her there. We have gone over all the sensible arguments that she will be safe and have a better quality of life but it is still so hard. My son is brilliant with her stays with her over night and isn't phased about any of the personal care he has offered to give up his job and look after her. I'm ashamed to say I have actually seriously considered it but it isn't fair to him. I have her name on a waiting list for a lovely home close to us I hope I can go through with it when the time comes.