I really wanted to visit David in respite but did not as the professionals and also some other carers said this made it worse rather than better as every visit they were disappointed not to come home. David is a bit clingy today but that suits me as I want lots of hugs and kisses too. The CH saw how anxious I was and called me every day to let me know how he was doing. The Friday, he went in on the Monday, he was asking for me lots and they called me and I spoke on the phone to reassure him. I did this Saturday too but could not Sunday as was in London seeing my daughter.
He has no concept of time so I guess it was more likely he would be anxious as time passed.
I think I would try to do it again but would probably go for a shorter time if I was honest. I would not feel comfortable not being able to fetch him back if neede so I cannot ever see myself being brave enough to go abroad or anything like that but that is just me probably being silly.
I do feel it has topped up my reserves of sleep and patience
Tre
Thanks Tre for answering my questions, that's really helpful and something I'll pass on to dad - who was at first totally against overnight respite, then reluctant to consider it, but is now on the verge of accepting it because the situation is deteriorating daily.
If he does accept it, I would like him to stay away, at least for the first two or three days, but don't know if he will do this. When mam was sectioned, he visited her every day, twice a day, for the two weeks that she was there. Still, he did get respite this way, but it wasn't total and he had a lot of rushing around to do in between visits, plus of course mam would be distressed every time he left - meaning she was upset at least twice a day, every day, for the whole two weeks. He hates leaving her side.
Still, first things first. Accepting overnight respite - even if he visits - is a huge step forward.
Slowly slowly catchy monkey.