KMJ said:I know I should be calm and accepting, but I have made a special effort all day to be kind and helpful to my husband who was diagnosed with AD 5 yrs ago .
I have just got him ready and into bed and sat down with a glass of wine . I'm furious with him for peeing on the settee half an hour before bedtime while was in the loo in the next room. Now I'm ashamed of myself for even telling him about it. Like everyone else I'm tired and not sleeping well. Friends, neighbours and family all tell me to look after myself, but I feel like shouting "How the hell can I do that?" Any ideas of how to bite the bullet and ask his brothers to stay with him overnight so I could sleep undisturbed?
Hey. You're only a human being at the end of the day, not a superhero. Everyone has their limits and it's not wrong to be mad with your husband. I think most people do get mad at their loved ones despite their best efforts - looking after someone with Alzheimer's is a frustrating thing at times.
I think you should explain straight out to his brothers that you need a break. I can't see how they could possibly refuse in the circumstances. Unfortunately, not everyone can see what a tough time you're having and are never going to offer to help without being asked. Good luck!