Hi my name is Karen and for the past 12 months I have been helping to care for my mum, who developed rapid onset vascular dementia after having a serious of mini strokes. She has gone from being my best friend into a bedridden, incontinent, frightened child. We were told when she last left hospital after a water infection that she only had a matter of months to live so we brought her home to die. But as time passed her needs grew beyond our ability to help and the constant calling and shouting became more than we could cope with, it was tearing my dad apart, they've been married for 62 years. So although we didn't want to we have been forced to place her in a care home which said they specifically catered for end of life dementia. Unfortunately it's not what we were expecting, foolishly we thought she would receive one to one care but of course that's not been the case. She is so unhappy and confused and cannot understand why we've locked her away. She has her own room but the staff don't seem to realise she can't drink or eat by herself, she can't even move if she's uncomfortable. When we visit she is so thirsty and when we ask what she's had to eat they say oh she says no so we take it away.... She says no to everything if she's frightened and now I'm sorry worried we done the wrong thing... I sit and cry most days and feel oh so guilty, especially when she looks at me and asks why have I betrayed her when she loved and trusted me.... I feel that I can't complain as she is fully CHC funded, please does anyone have any advice. Thanks