I'm new to this forum .My mum had a fall last June and rib fractures, which led to her having Delirium overnight. She had previously been fiercely independet. After horrendous hospital admissions where they took away her mobility by keeping kept her bedbound, lack of care / caring. She has lost her independence. She returned home for a while with support but fell again. We found a care home where she was for 2 months. The staff had no idea how to care for her. Young girls from another country made up the majority of the staff. Lack of training led to mum being over sedated and she had a rapid decline. Luckily we managed to get her to a hospice where they stabilised her. She improved but obviously had cognitive imparement and we had to find another home. She's been in her current nursing home for 6 weeks. She still thinks that its a temporary stay and that she will be coming with me when I leave after visiting. Some days she's bright and others she's sleepy or appears confused and in another world. It's incredibly hard to see this once vibrant and sociable lady become a shadow of her former self in a few months. . I have had to be her advocate and I'm feeling exhausted by it all. Yesterday I visited - Mothers Day. It was the first time I couldn't talk to her as she was in a deep sleep and I just stood by her bed and cried. I left the things I'd taken as the staff will show her and felt beyond sad. Then found this group online. I hope someone can identify with my situation.