Hi, This is only my second post and am grateful for the replies I had to my first and to all the information available on this forum. Reading the forum has made me realise that there are a lot of people in a far worse position than I am. My mum has moderate to severe alzheimers and is currently on Aricept which I hope is slowing things down. To-day I took my mum out, which I often do, as a visit to the park and a little walk is quite enjoyable for her and sometimes we visit my dad's grave which is nearby. To-day being Fathers Day we went to the cemetery which we have done many times before but as I was putting the flowers on the grave my mum asked why was I putting flowers on there and whose grave was it anyway. I suddenly felt very deflated in that she did not recognise her own husbands grave. My dad died when I was only in my very early twenties and his memory means a great deal to me but mum's comment really did hurt. In my head I know I should not stop taking her to visit the grave but in my heart is it worth the pain it will cause to me that she does not recognise who is buried there or am I being selfish. I tried to explain but I am afraid my emotions took over. So to-day I am feeling sad and low but know that no matter how much it hurts she is my mum and I will carry on looking after her. This is a horrible, horrible condition which is slowly 'stealing' my mums life away from her and there is nothing I can do about it.