Because it is becoming increasingly clear that Mum is unsafe in her own home I have recently begun to seriously consider whether now is the time for Mum to go into care, so after lots of conversations with a local homes yesterday I had my first 'tour' of a care home with a dedicated dementia wing.
This home is one of the 'posh and expensive' options but I came home and just burst into tears as I found it the most depressing, shocking experience, even though the staff and manager were lovely it didn't feel like a happy place, the residents in there appeared much , much worse than Mum, it felt like somewhere people went to die rather than to live.
Deep down I'd hoped that a care home would potentially be a place where Mum could possibly thrive with lots of company and new friends to make, all of which would be great for her cognitive function but the residents I saw yesterday didn't appear capable of having any sort of conversation and everyone looked incredibly sad and confused.
I'm at a loss to decide what's best for Mum - I simply couldn't leave her somewhere like that and I now wonder if I had the most unrealistic image of a 2021 care home in my head.
I'm going to try and get some tours around other homes in the hope of finding the image in my head of a happy home for Mum, but yesterday's was an example of an expensive one what the heck are the others going to be like!
This home is one of the 'posh and expensive' options but I came home and just burst into tears as I found it the most depressing, shocking experience, even though the staff and manager were lovely it didn't feel like a happy place, the residents in there appeared much , much worse than Mum, it felt like somewhere people went to die rather than to live.
Deep down I'd hoped that a care home would potentially be a place where Mum could possibly thrive with lots of company and new friends to make, all of which would be great for her cognitive function but the residents I saw yesterday didn't appear capable of having any sort of conversation and everyone looked incredibly sad and confused.
I'm at a loss to decide what's best for Mum - I simply couldn't leave her somewhere like that and I now wonder if I had the most unrealistic image of a 2021 care home in my head.
I'm going to try and get some tours around other homes in the hope of finding the image in my head of a happy home for Mum, but yesterday's was an example of an expensive one what the heck are the others going to be like!