1. nannylondon

    nannylondon Registered User

    Apr 7, 2014
    2,474
    London
    Hi my husband has been for respite care for the first time he has had Alzeimers for 8 years and I have been coping most of the time but had a family crisis my little grandson was desperately ill and in intensive care Chris had being getting progressively worse in the last few months and it wasn't till he went into respite that I realised how near the edge I was now he is home I feel I can't cope with his aggression and abuse I know it's not him but this dreadful disease but I am spending part of each day in tears and feel that he was better of in care home
     
  2. WIFE

    WIFE Registered User

    May 23, 2014
    857
    WEST SUSSEX
    Poor, poor you - nannylondon. Has it come to decision time if only to protect your own health? Such a sad time for you - hope your little grandson is recovering or has recovered. Will be thinking of you WIFE
     
  3. mabbs

    mabbs Registered User

    Dec 1, 2014
    238
    Lancashire
    thinking of you, its a difficult choice one I am also having to make, hubby is in assessment unit, wishing you well, and knowing that there are lots of people here that can give you advice and more importantly support. Take care xxx
     
  4. Amber 3

    Amber 3 Registered User

    Feb 4, 2015
    38
    South Devon
    I have been advised that I get some respite care for my husband as he is getting more confused and aggressive. It's such a heart rending decision to make but there comes a time when I think the choice is made for us.. Never put yourself at risk.
     
  5. truth24

    truth24 Registered User

    Oct 13, 2013
    5,726
    North Somerset
    Thinking of you, nannylondon. What do your professionals have to say? As WIFE says, you have to protect yourself and there comes a time when you can't care for him in the way he needs. Then you have to think what is best for him.
     
  6. Quilty

    Quilty Registered User

    Aug 28, 2014
    1,056
    GLASGOW
    Its a very difficult decision but he needs you to stay well even if he is in 24hr care. You can care for him and yourself.
     
  7. nannylondon

    nannylondon Registered User

    Apr 7, 2014
    2,474
    London
    Thanks

    Thanks I am going to talk to doctor I know it is maybe time for full time care it is just so hard to face up too my grandson is a lot better he had meningitis unfortunately he had to have an arm amputated but thank God he has pulled through thanks again
     
  8. truth24

    truth24 Registered User

    Oct 13, 2013
    5,726
    North Somerset
    Your poor grandson. Meningitis is such a terrible disease. What a worry for you all. You are really having such a sad time. Thinking of you.
     
  9. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,659
    Kent
    Hello nanylondon

    I`m sorry you are at the stage of considering permanent residential care, but you know things will not get better and however bad you feel there comes a time when tough decisions need to be made.

    In our case, residential care was the best decision I made. My husband settled well and became less aggressive. I was more rested having people to share the caring with me and my visits were a source of pleasure.

    What a tragedy for your grandson. Meningitis is such a frightening illness.
     
  10. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
    8,007
    Norfolk
    Feel for you, Grannylondon. I've got a meeting tomorow to start the care process for respite. Hubby currently in hospital.

    Really sorry to hear of your Grandson's illness. On top of your own troubles, you now have him on your mind as well. Can't be easy. Thinking of you.
     
  11. patsy56

    patsy56 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2015
    840
    Fife Scotland
    so sorry, thinking of you, it isn't easy to divide time, but welcome to TP you are in good company here.
     
  12. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,535
    North East England
    I'm so sorry on both counts, nannylondon. What a terrible thing to happen to your grandson, but so thankful for you all that he is recovering.

    I also feel for you having reached decision time regarding your husband's care. Wishing you all the best xx
     

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