I've just joined the forum this week and have found a lot of comfort reading everyone's threads...nice to know I am not alone. The problem I'm having is with the guilt. I live 250 miles away from my family and drive down there every month to spend 5 days helping mum look after dad, who has severe Alzeheimers. I feel constantly torn between my family, running my business, my partner and having my own life. So the feelings of selfishness and guilt are running high, even though no one is pointing a finger at me and I know I am doing all that I possibly can in the circumstances.
What is making it worse is that Dad is in hospital and is getting shunted between wards - he has a suspected infection - but no one is giving us any information about what will happen when he is sent home despite liaison with Social services, Gps, mental health units etc...so frustrating! He seems to have deteriorated whilst in hospital and I know that mum won't be able to cope with him. I'm assuming that he won't just be sent home without a care package of some sort in place? We are just in limbo land waiting and everything seems to take so long despite being 'in the system'. Any helpful advice most appreciated.
What is making it worse is that Dad is in hospital and is getting shunted between wards - he has a suspected infection - but no one is giving us any information about what will happen when he is sent home despite liaison with Social services, Gps, mental health units etc...so frustrating! He seems to have deteriorated whilst in hospital and I know that mum won't be able to cope with him. I'm assuming that he won't just be sent home without a care package of some sort in place? We are just in limbo land waiting and everything seems to take so long despite being 'in the system'. Any helpful advice most appreciated.