northumbrian_k
Volunteer Host
I am out of sorts and rather emotional today. My wife has been quite disruptive in her care home again, going in and out of bedrooms, pushing staff away and so on. She has been putting clothes and other things on other people's beds, including on top of a lady who is not well and currently bed-ridden (she probably did not even notice the lady). Staff have had to keep doors locked which they don't like to do as residents should be able to go to their own rooms at will. It bothers me that some staff don’t seem to have much time for or patience with her. There is nothing wrong with their standard of care but some just don’t seem to like her. Others seem quite fond of her. I can often guess what her mood will be like by which staff member opens the front door.
She was very unsettled yesterday. I noticed a bruise on her forearm. The Deputy Manager said that it was probably from her banging on the locked bedroom door and that seemed to make sense. I am hoping that the GP who is seeing her today might be able to prescribe something to keep her a bit calmer. I would hate to get to a point when the home says that it is not willing to look after her but fear that it might come to that if she can’t be calmed down. It is a shame that this has happened as she fitted in very well at first, but then dementia is progressive (or should that be regressive?) and ever-changing.
I felt reassured after speaking to one of the senior carers by telephone today. She said that the home would do its best to understand what is causing my wife's agitation and to help her get past it, whether through some kind of behavioural strategy or possibly medication. She said that the home would ‘never’ ask me to find somewhere else. She is a member of care staff not management, though, so I’m not sure how firm a commitment that might be.
She was very unsettled yesterday. I noticed a bruise on her forearm. The Deputy Manager said that it was probably from her banging on the locked bedroom door and that seemed to make sense. I am hoping that the GP who is seeing her today might be able to prescribe something to keep her a bit calmer. I would hate to get to a point when the home says that it is not willing to look after her but fear that it might come to that if she can’t be calmed down. It is a shame that this has happened as she fitted in very well at first, but then dementia is progressive (or should that be regressive?) and ever-changing.
I felt reassured after speaking to one of the senior carers by telephone today. She said that the home would do its best to understand what is causing my wife's agitation and to help her get past it, whether through some kind of behavioural strategy or possibly medication. She said that the home would ‘never’ ask me to find somewhere else. She is a member of care staff not management, though, so I’m not sure how firm a commitment that might be.