I have posted previosuly about my Mum, had memory assessment, she scored 72, now got to wait 4-6 weeks for an occupational thearpy appointment.
Somedays mum isnt too bad, my brother and sister help when they can but I feel like my mum is very dependant on me and like I am no longer allowed a life of my own.
I work full time and live with my husband, nearby my mum. I just feel like in my spare time I am expected to be there all the time. Weekends are the worst, I feel so guilty like im not supposed to be doing anything that doesnt involve her. For example this Sunday i took her for coffee and to the shops, took her home and spent time with her, then she came to my house for her tea. I took her back and ended up having to stay all night as she felt unwell, I never slept, she called to me every half hour or so. Then I had to work full time all day so i didnt visit and my goodness didnt I know about it.
Just feel like i am thinking about it all the time, almost resenting my Mum. We have mentioned full time care and assisted living but she doesnt want to know. I feel so distracted, like it is all i think about. Havent been able to spend time with my husband at all and I dont want it to keep affecting our relationship.
Its making me feel quite down.
Sorry just needed to rant :-(
Somedays mum isnt too bad, my brother and sister help when they can but I feel like my mum is very dependant on me and like I am no longer allowed a life of my own.
I work full time and live with my husband, nearby my mum. I just feel like in my spare time I am expected to be there all the time. Weekends are the worst, I feel so guilty like im not supposed to be doing anything that doesnt involve her. For example this Sunday i took her for coffee and to the shops, took her home and spent time with her, then she came to my house for her tea. I took her back and ended up having to stay all night as she felt unwell, I never slept, she called to me every half hour or so. Then I had to work full time all day so i didnt visit and my goodness didnt I know about it.
Just feel like i am thinking about it all the time, almost resenting my Mum. We have mentioned full time care and assisted living but she doesnt want to know. I feel so distracted, like it is all i think about. Havent been able to spend time with my husband at all and I dont want it to keep affecting our relationship.
Its making me feel quite down.
Sorry just needed to rant :-(