I only found out dad had dementia a few weeks ago and onlooking up his symptoms he was middle stages, anyway he was supposed to be discharged back from hospital to home but becuase his arthritis is bad and he had been conned out of all his savings the SW / care team thought he should go into a nursing home- that was about 2/3 weeks ago.
Friday I heard he hadnt been well and had picked up another chest infection (chronic smoker) and although they were treating him the Drs said that if his heart was to stop they would not resusitate him as he is quite frail.
I am flying over to see him on Tuesday Morning (he's in Dublin and I'm nr Brghton) so I should be at the hosp by lunchtime (I have to cancel his utilities and clear his flat as he wasnt returning there), I've just had a call from the nurse who says he got bad last night (low Oxygen levels and BP) and is now lying in a vegetative state and will not respond to anyone or thing and she doesnt think he will last until Tuesday.
I feel guilty because I cant change my flights so would need to purchase a new ticket for me if I were to come tomorrow, but the nursing staff were insistent that I should come right away. Its too late for me to get a flight for tonight as it is and I hate to travel on my own late at night.
I just feel helpless, he was responding to the nursing staff Wednesday but now nothing I just didnt realise he could change so quickly.
I'm not sure why I am writing this but just wanted to get something down as I am trying to not let it affect me in front of my children who dont understand (4&8)
Friday I heard he hadnt been well and had picked up another chest infection (chronic smoker) and although they were treating him the Drs said that if his heart was to stop they would not resusitate him as he is quite frail.
I am flying over to see him on Tuesday Morning (he's in Dublin and I'm nr Brghton) so I should be at the hosp by lunchtime (I have to cancel his utilities and clear his flat as he wasnt returning there), I've just had a call from the nurse who says he got bad last night (low Oxygen levels and BP) and is now lying in a vegetative state and will not respond to anyone or thing and she doesnt think he will last until Tuesday.
I feel guilty because I cant change my flights so would need to purchase a new ticket for me if I were to come tomorrow, but the nursing staff were insistent that I should come right away. Its too late for me to get a flight for tonight as it is and I hate to travel on my own late at night.
I just feel helpless, he was responding to the nursing staff Wednesday but now nothing I just didnt realise he could change so quickly.
I'm not sure why I am writing this but just wanted to get something down as I am trying to not let it affect me in front of my children who dont understand (4&8)