Not sure if Mum has fecal incontinence or is just not sure what to do when she has a bowel movement. Mum is able to take herself to the toilet and pee ok. However she is soiling herself or leaving the bathroom in a mess when she has a bowel movement. Dad does take her to the toilet during the day but unfortunately she never wants to go then and Dad is asleep when she goes at night. Sometimes she has used the toilet but appears to have walked away whilst still going or else she has gone in her pull-ups (which we started to buy because her underwear was getting in such a state). Mum also has the habit of putting her hands down her knickers and getting them covered in faeces. She is fighting Dad over being washed which doesn't help
Do you think it would be worth getting an appointment with a Continence Nurse? Dad isn't keen as he doesn't think they will be able to help (since Mum is going in the middle of the night). Apart from perhaps getting a prescription for some pads or pull-ups, I am not sure what else the nurse could offer?
This issue is getting Dad down as it causes a lot of extra work aside from being so unpleasant to deal with. We have suggested getting in a carer to wash Mum of a morning but again Dad thinks if Mum will fight him, she will fight the carer so it would be a waste of time.
Is there any way of getting Mum in the habit of opening her bowels during the day? Just stumped as to how to help Dad manage this problem?
Do you think it would be worth getting an appointment with a Continence Nurse? Dad isn't keen as he doesn't think they will be able to help (since Mum is going in the middle of the night). Apart from perhaps getting a prescription for some pads or pull-ups, I am not sure what else the nurse could offer?
This issue is getting Dad down as it causes a lot of extra work aside from being so unpleasant to deal with. We have suggested getting in a carer to wash Mum of a morning but again Dad thinks if Mum will fight him, she will fight the carer so it would be a waste of time.
Is there any way of getting Mum in the habit of opening her bowels during the day? Just stumped as to how to help Dad manage this problem?