My husband is currently in a care home for respite care. The respite is for me because I am finding it increasingly difficult to look after him at home. I feel that the time may have come for him to go into the home permanently but I am overwhelmed by grief and guilt at the thought of "putting him away" and haven't been able to make the decision yet. When I visit him he is so pleased to see me and begs me to take him home, but I really don't think I can go on any longer. We do have a carer at home who comes every morning to wash and dress him, but otherwise I am on my own all day and all night. I love him very much but can't cope much longer.