Hello Maryjoan,Hi Kathy,
I have been a carer off and on since 1980 - for disabled children I have fostered and my own step children. This latest set of circumstances happened all together - my dearly loved OH almost dying and needing emergency surgery - his dementia getting very much worse - and having to close my business down because of it all......... the social worker said she thought I had PTSD - and I would not disagree!!
Here is a funny for instance.......
OH lost his keys, which are ALWAYS fastened to belt loop on his trousers.
Turned the house upside down, turned the house upside down again, and again and drove me potty. Totally obsessed - phoned the shops he had been in, phoned Lyme Regis - the pub we had been in, turned the house upside down, again, again.
Got replacement keys organised for the snooker club and the bowls club and the house.......
He swore blind that the keys had been on his belt loop when we left home........and that he used them to lock the house and to open the house when we returned.
End of story.......
Phone call today, from someone who had found the keys, and they are back in to post to us now.......
This means he lost them outside, - but it also means that he never locked the house up when we went!
BUT he need never have kept turning the house upside down as they were never, ever here!!!!!
We used to have key problems as well. One day my husband took the three sets of keys to the house out to the garage with him and of course he didn't have them when he knocked at on the door to come in. Well on a bitter cold day I had to go into the garage to find them, two sets were recovered quite quickly but it took another two hours to find the third set which had been put in an umberella at the back of the garage. Of course there was the blank look when asked why.
Best wishes
Kathy xx