Dear All,
My father's rabid MANIC obsession with money is driving me utterly crazy.....!!!!
My father has always been concerned about finances. Coming from a poor family, he has saved and hoarded money all his life to give himself and my mother a decent standard of living in their old age. I use the word 'hoarded' because he has been well known as being very tight with money over the years according to his friends. I now have POA over my parents' financial affairs and can totally understand my father's concerns about not being in control of this anymore. I do try and keep him in the picture as much as possible. However........
Our usual 1 hour morning session of 'going through the books' has now extended to hours of the same every day. It has virtually become his sole topic of conversation. Every time I walk into the lounge, or am cooking lunch he is there accusing me of never talking to him, lying to him about it or avoiding the issue. [I am avoiding the issue actually, because I am sick and tired of having to talk about it for 3-4 hours every blasted day......]
If I tell him that we have just spent an hour discussing it, then I am a liar and am stealing money from him. If people come to visit, then he attacks them with his latest information - which is hugely embarrassing for them and also NOT good that he is prepared to talk to all sorts of people about his finances, which should be private. If I don't give him any information at all, then he gets VERY angry.
Friends are now not too willing to visit because they will be embarrassed and subjected to harrassment. Even the carers were getting fed up with the Inquisition before their hols.... Me, well I am hiding in various other parts of the house in an attempt to avoid speaking to him at all, which doesn't work because he berates my mother about it then and reduces her to tears. This means that we then have to start all over again......I am totally sick of this!
HELP...........
Jude
My father's rabid MANIC obsession with money is driving me utterly crazy.....!!!!
My father has always been concerned about finances. Coming from a poor family, he has saved and hoarded money all his life to give himself and my mother a decent standard of living in their old age. I use the word 'hoarded' because he has been well known as being very tight with money over the years according to his friends. I now have POA over my parents' financial affairs and can totally understand my father's concerns about not being in control of this anymore. I do try and keep him in the picture as much as possible. However........
Our usual 1 hour morning session of 'going through the books' has now extended to hours of the same every day. It has virtually become his sole topic of conversation. Every time I walk into the lounge, or am cooking lunch he is there accusing me of never talking to him, lying to him about it or avoiding the issue. [I am avoiding the issue actually, because I am sick and tired of having to talk about it for 3-4 hours every blasted day......]
If I tell him that we have just spent an hour discussing it, then I am a liar and am stealing money from him. If people come to visit, then he attacks them with his latest information - which is hugely embarrassing for them and also NOT good that he is prepared to talk to all sorts of people about his finances, which should be private. If I don't give him any information at all, then he gets VERY angry.
Friends are now not too willing to visit because they will be embarrassed and subjected to harrassment. Even the carers were getting fed up with the Inquisition before their hols.... Me, well I am hiding in various other parts of the house in an attempt to avoid speaking to him at all, which doesn't work because he berates my mother about it then and reduces her to tears. This means that we then have to start all over again......I am totally sick of this!
HELP...........
Jude
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