Farewell to my Mother

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by Jude, May 19, 2006.

  1. Jude

    Jude Registered User

    Dear Friends,

    Just to let all friends on TP know that my mother died last Friday morning. The funeral ceremony is to be held on this coming Tuesday at 1.30pm.

    I managed to get over here from Australia in time to had a last quiet talk with my mother and the fact that she was lucid enough to know me for a short time was incredibly wonderful. Sheila and I sat with her when she died. It was very peaceful and she was in no pain at all. I think that Mum just decided that she had had enough and that it was time for her to leave.

    My father is totally and blissfully unaware that Mum has gone, which is in itself a blessing too. He is happy in his own world. I'm pleased that he will not suffer grief and sadness at losing his wife of 64 years.

    I'd like to say a huge thank you to all friends on TP for your support over the past few years. I'd especially like to pay tribute to Sheila who has been such a special friend to me and without whom I would have been totally lost at this time.

    I feel a great sadness that my beloved mother has died, but I am also in some way relieved that she has finally beaten AD. She is now free and for that I am truly happy.

    with love and best wishes to all,

    Jude xxx
  2. rummy

    rummy Registered User

    Jul 15, 2005
    Yours is an example I will strive to live up to. God Bless Jude and I will be thinking of you today.
  3. jakky

    jakky Registered User

    Jan 30, 2006
    My thoughts are with you Jude, sorry to hear of your sad loss,

  4. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    Thank- you for sharing its lovely to hear from you ,I ‘m sorry about your mother passing what a lovely way of putting it when you say

  5. Katy44

    Katy44 Registered User

    Sep 14, 2004
    So sorry to hear your news Jude, thinking of you xx
  6. Linda Mc

    Linda Mc Registered User

    Jul 3, 2005
    Nr Mold
    Thinking of you Jude and glad your mother is now at peace.

    Bless you

    Linda x
  7. Kriss

    Kriss Registered User

    May 20, 2004
    Dearest Jude

    I am so pleased that you managed to get there in time - it must have seemed like the longest journey ever. When we received a call from the hospital to say we should come immediately to see my Dad I was only an hour away but I can still envisage that journey and feel those emotions.

    Your Mum has truly won her battle.

  8. Lynne

    Lynne Registered User

    Jun 3, 2005
    Jude, I'm sorry for your loss, but glad Mum's passing was peaceful, and that you were able to exchange your goodbyes and I love yous.
  9. Kathleen

    Kathleen Registered User

    Mar 12, 2005
    West Sussex

    I am sorry for your loss, but understand the blessing of your father being unaware of her passing.

    My Mum is spared the grief of Dad's passing too, the only plus side of her AD we have ever found.

    Take good care of yourself

  10. maggier

    maggier Registered User

    Jan 9, 2006
    Dear Jude

    I am truly sorry for your loss but hope that I can be as brave as you when my mum passes.

    My thoughts are with you at this sad time.


    Maggie x
  11. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    Hiya Jude
    What a tremendous gift she gave you.
    Thinking of you.
    Love Amy
  12. dmc

    dmc Registered User

    Mar 13, 2006
    hello jude

    just wanted to add my condolences to you, it was good you got to talk to your mum and you were there for her at the end.
    you'll be in my thoughts tuesday
    take care
  13. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    I am so sorry to hear your news but pleased that you managed a conversation with your Mother before she died - that memory will stay with you. Dementia is a test for all those concerned - so your Mother and all of you have passed your test with flying colours! Our thoughts will be with you on Tuesday. Best Wishes. BeckyJan
  14. jarnee

    jarnee Registered User

    Mar 18, 2006

    Just wanted to add my condolences too. My thoughts and prayers are with you

  15. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
    NW England
    How beautiful that you feel that way and have the grace to share it with us at this time.

    Thank you. God bless.

    Karen, x
  16. mojofilter

    mojofilter Registered User

    May 10, 2006

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family,

  17. maria29al

    maria29al Registered User

    Mar 15, 2006
    I am so sorry to hear about your mother but she is now at peace.

    I dont know what you beleive happens when we pass on but maybe you will feel her near to you as you go through life and enjoy her company.

    Big hugs.

  18. Nutty Nan

    Nutty Nan Registered User

    Nov 2, 2003
    Dear Jude,
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Dad - may the happy memories of your Mum keep you going through these days of sadness.
    Hugs, C.
  19. Frank

    Frank Registered User

    May 18, 2006

    Dear Jude,

    I am very new to this site. My wife is in the early stages of this horrible disease and from reading all of the various threads here I have only an inkling of what is to come. I just hope that I can have the courage and perspective that you displayed in your message.

    My sincerest condolenses for your loss.

  20. ElaineMaul

    ElaineMaul Registered User

    Jan 29, 2005
    Dear Jude,
    May I also offer my condolences. I am so pleased you were able to share some lucid moments with your Mum at the end and that her passing was peaceful.
    Take care; I will be thinking of you on Tuesday.
    Love Elaine

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