Hi @Roseleigh , I think it's useless.Is it fair to force a diagnosis on someone very elderly, who may die before dementia gets them?
You are so kind @margherita !Hi @Roseleigh , I think it's useless.
Lack of awareness is a godsend. My husband, who has Alzheimer's ( MMS 6.1), often says he can reason much better than me, even if he is " a bit " forgetful. God bless him, his lack of self-awareness and his arrogance.
Hi @Weasell , thank you , but I'm afraid I am not so kind. I am too tired and exasperated.You are so kind @margherita !
The fact you can give that answer, when we know what you go through ! You are a true star!
Hi Margherita,Hi @Weasell , thank you , but I'm afraid I am not so kind. I am too tired and exasperated.
Re the consequences of the lack of awareness, I had not taken into consideration the practical problems that might come up .
My DD suggested the same, stepping back, but to do so during this pandemic is well nigh impossible.@Roseleigh You have two choices, carry on as you are or step back and wait for a hopefully minor catastrophe. That sounds awful doesn't it but unless you can get her to accept some help I can't see any other way. My dad was the same and it was me who provided his care. I couldn't step back so I carried on but it is not good.
I know some people have just gone ahead and arranged carers for a parent in the guise of free help for the elderly or free help because the carer is learning on the job.. You would need POA for finances to do this because you would have to pay for it out of your mums money.
If she refuses to see a doctor you can speak to her doctor (who may or may not listen) and he/she may invite your mum in for a 'well woman check'
You are in a difficult spot as I know too well and it will just go on if you let it.